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The Elegant Warrior Podcast Episode 118 – Teaching People How To Treat You

Too often we find ourselves waiting for other people to give us permission to advocate for ourselves.  We expect other people to reach out to us, to help us in our careers, or to give us what we think we deserve, but often end up frustrated because we’re still not getting what we want.  It’s time to stop waiting for that permission from others and to start teaching people how to treat you.  I’m joined today by an expert on the topic — one of the world’s top 50 business thinkers and the number one communications coach in the world Dorie Clark.  Dorie is someone that is not just focused on her own career but also takes the time to help other people in their careers, and it has taken her far.  From developing a powerful presence on LinkedIn to inspiring public speaking, performing stand-up comedy to writing musical theater Dorie appears to be fearless.  She has tossed the standard script of life out the window and she knows how to get what she wants.  Together we discuss how anyone can take that same level of confidence and use it to get the things you want most from your career, your network, your passions and your life.


Today we discuss —

Lessons from Dorie on successful entrepreneurial endeavors

  • Use down time in your schedule to focus on your backseat dreams
  • Explore every possible avenue to generate sources of income
  • Moments of necessity will help you utilize all of your skills and abilities
  • Flexibility in trying new things and the ability to serve will be the keys to your success
  • Take the long-term view when responding to others both virtually and in person


Networking tips to help you become a recognized expert in your field

  • Gather the people you want in your network together in whatever way you can
  • If you want to get an invitation, it may require that you extend an invitation first
  • Continue networking during the pandemic with virtual happy hour connections
  • Set your focus on your content creation, your social proof and credibility, and the social proof that comes with a solid network


How to appear fearless

  • Putting yourself out there is not something that you need to be afraid of
  • People take their cues about how to treat you from YOU
  • Don’t get in the way of your own success by hesitating or waiting to receive permission from other people about how you should be treated
  • Teach people how to treat you by the way that you treat yourself


Figuring out what’s next

  • Don’t be afraid to change the script that you have been reading from
  • Use the career pause provided by the pandemic to pinpoint what steps you need to take next
  • Take Dorie’s ‘reinventing you’ self assessment found here
  • Don’t limit yourself based on your training or education, rather identify the skills that you have and find a way to use them into a career you love


Dorie’s books are Stand Out: How to Find Your Breakthrough Idea and Build a Following Around It, Reinventing You: Define Your Brand, Imagine Your Future, and Entrepreneurial You: Monetize Your Expertise, Create Multiple Income Streams, and Thrive 

Dorie’s book recommendation is Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb

Dorie’s song choice is “You Gotta Be” by Des’ree


Learn More:

Advocate to Win

The Elegant Warrior Playlist on Spotify

Dorie Clark

Dorie Clark on LinkedIn


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